It's perfectly normal for men and wormen to get to know each other and like one another's company. We meet people of the opposite gender in a wide variety of places - work, church, kids' activities, civic organizations, neighborhoods, through other friends, etc.  Getting married does not mean that you are banned from having an opposite gender friend.  That said, you want to be clear that your marriage is your Number One relationship priority and that you have no desire to allow the friendship to overshadow the marriage. Also, you would want to guard yourself from deep emotional connections taking the place of the connections inside a marriage. For example, it could be a risk to talk too extensively with that friend about deep hurts or about ongoing tensions in the marriage. Emotional bonding could occur which could trigger sexual desires, and that is to be averted. Definitely, the male-female friendship ideally would be maintained in full view and with full approval of the spouse.  You don't need it to be secretive. Make sure affections are modestly communicated so as not to create the impression that this relationship is in competition to the marriage. Saying "I do" does not mean ceasing male-female friendships but it does mean that those friendships are to be filtered through the potential affect it could have on the security and primacy of the marriage.

Dr. Les